Are you my fine wine, Valentine?

I wrote this post to discuss a few things such as, Is love an emotion or decision? What is the concept of love?! And How can I be that “fine wine.” Plus “Fascinating, funny, and shocking truths about valentine’s day!

Are you ready? Lets dive in!

Love, only four letters but so powerful! Most people believe that love is that fuzzy feeling, sweaty palms, clenching stomach and full of nerves type of emotion that you just “catch” when that handsome or beautiful person catches your eye. Well, I am here to tell you that love is like a hunger, a drive, or for some a persistent energy that just won’t let go. There are several varieties of love! I will eventually discuss down below the three natures of love: Eros, Philia and Agape! Some of these are like the love for a parent, child, significant other, favorite movie or even an attire. Love is a strong feeling towards something. Love can also be an action. Loving your parents and expressing that or watching that movie over and over again until you know it by heart. Are those kinds of love the “fine wine?” kind: well, in my opinion no!When I say fine wine in love I mean this. Showing your loved ones respect, gratitude, consideration, and that they are of value to you! Most people I believe think that love is an emotion that they get or catch. Well, for some it can be. It can be like catching a cloud you just don’t want to get down from. Floating, everything is sunny and roses everywhere until reality sinks in. or like I read here ”

“love is an abstract noun which means for some it is a word unattached to anything real or sensible, that is all; for others, it is a means by which our being—our self and its world—are irrevocably affected once we are ‘touched by love.”-

Love is not just an emotion because emotions are like the days, they come and go. Love is an action but mostly in my opinion a DECISION! Paul says it best in 1 Corinthians on how to be the “perfect” example of love. He tells us that love is not what the movies show as an emotional, hormones filled moment but something much much deeper. From 1 Corinthians he phrases it as this, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Okay Paul, and here I thought being in love was receiving hugs, kisses, flowers, candy and all the good stuff. Now your telling me that I can’t get angry about the stupid habits this person has or the fact that I want to be first in things or remind him (keep record)of how he does stuff just to anger me!!!???. C’mon man!” But that is exactly what he is saying!I think about the bible and the greatest example of love with God and in how He Does NOT have to love ANYONE of us, But the good news, He chose to love us because He sent his ONLY son to show us just how much. Phew, my mind is blown! I am not a parent yet, but to let my son die for people I don’t know….HA!….you must be out of your mind child! All this to say: again, what is love? It’s not as emotional as you think! It is being patient when you are exhausted and the day just CANNOT get any worst, or kind when that loved one just keeps pushing your buttons and makes you wonder if you really cared at all!?! Love is being considerate of that partner/child that you have DECIDED to open your heart to. It is going the extra mile to bring a smile to their face and hearts. Love……..caring when you do not have to, going the distant even when it hurts, being kind even when they pour down pain! Yes my friends, LOVE is more of an ACTION instead of an emotional FEELING!

This brings us to the concept or philosophy of love! It is not just an emotional or physical urge to be with some one but a decision! As it is mentioned in the Bible and many other philosophical books. As I mentioned before: we will discuss the three natures of love: Eros, Philia, and Agape.

Okay girl: what do these word mean and where did they come from!?!

The term Eros (Greek erasthai) is the kind of love for a partner. This is the Lustful kind of love. As expressed in better terms here:

“that part of love constituting a passionate, intense desire for something; it is often referred to as a sexual desire, hence the modern notion of “erotic” (Greek erotikos).”-

The second word Philia is almost complete opposite! it is a strong feeling of fondness, nothing sexual but solely a strong bond. The feeling you have for a family member or dear friend!

“For the Greeks, the term philia incorporated not just friendship, but also loyalties to family and polis-one’s political community, job, or discipline. Philia for another may be motivated, as Aristotle explains in the Nicomachean Ethics, Book VIII, for the agent’s sake or for the other’s own sake. The motivational distinctions are derived from love for another because the friendship is wholly useful as in the case of business contacts, or because their character and values are pleasing (with the implication that if those attractive habits change, so too does the friendship), or for the other in who they are in themselves, regardless of one’s interests in the matter.”-

The final word an Agape love: my personal favorite! This means the paternal love that God, parents and some friends have. That kind of love that allowed Him to send His only son to die for us. That unconditional love that last forever regardless of how we turn against HIM or each other!! It is that kind of love that demands absolute devotions to not just God but your fellow-man!

Those definitions helps explains the concept of love but love will always be something people question and wonder about!

“But what is meant by an appropriate language of description may be as philosophically beguiling as love itself. Such considerations invoke the philosophy of language, of the relevance and appropriateness of meanings, but they also provide the analysis of “love” with its first principles. Does it exist and if so, is it knowable, comprehensible, and indescribable? Love may be knowable and comprehensible to others, as understood in the phrases, “I am in love”, “I love you”, but what “love” means in these sentences may not be analyzed further: that is, the concept “love” is irreducible-an axiomatic, or self-evident, state of affairs that warrants no further intellectual intrusion, an apodictic category perhaps, that a Kantian may recognize.”-

I hear you, very educational but very mind-blowing! Just like some of you, I learned some fascinating things about love! It is not just a four letter word!

Are you ready for the Fascinating, funny, and shocking truths about valentine’s day!?

  1. In Victorian times it was considered bad luck to sign a Valentine’s day card!

Are you serious right now? How would they know who its from..hmmm no bueno!

2. About 1 billion Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged each year! This makes it the second largest seasonal card sending of the year!

3.Meant as an alternative to Valentine’s Day, the holiday is for single people to celebrate or to commiserate in their single status.

4. Many believe the X symbol became synonymous with the kiss in medieval times. People who couldn’t write their names signed in front of a witness with an X. The X was then kissed to show their sincerity.

5. Girls of medieval times ate bizarre foods on St. Valentine’s Day to make them dream of their future spouse. Such as, pancakes filled with ketchup….uuuummmm okay…

6. In the Middle Ages, young men and women drew names from a bowl to see who would be their Valentine. They would wear this name pinned onto their sleeves for one week for everyone to see. This was the origin of the expression “to wear your heart on your sleeve.”

7. In 1537, England’s King Henry VII officially declared Feb. 14 the holiday of St. Valentine’s Day.

8. Physicians of the 1800s commonly advised their patients to eat chocolate to calm their pining for lost love.

9. Richard Cadbury produced the first box of chocolates for Valentine’s Day in the late 1800s.

10. 220,000 is the average number of wedding proposals on Valentine’s Day each year.

My list came from this site here!-25-interesting-facts-valentines-day

This is a side note considering that there are 220,000 wedding proposals: did you know: “The official world record for the longest marriage for a living couple belongs to Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher, who were married for a total of 86 years and 290 days, before Mr. Fisher passed away.”-random-valentines-facts

That is a lifetime for sure! Thank you for visiting my site. What did you guys do for Valentine’s Day?!?!